I hope you don't misunderstand this article though. I am not saying it's wrong to ask but I am saying every woman should accord herself some self respect. 

I will try as much as I can not to be bias, but to see this from different perspective. 

In recent times, I have discovered that most women y'all meet and man and be acting like you just got a personal ATM machine that vomits money and stuffs at your command.

I mean you meet a guy today, he's trying to get to know you and stuffs and in the next 15 minutes you be talking about stuffs you need to buy, things you need to change, phone, pay your school fees, DSTV got expired, your car is at the mechanic, you want to go shopping and bla bla bla. 

Or the typical one; for the very hungry girls is " Send Me Recharge Card". Do we fu****g look like MTN or GLO? Giving out all those stuffs is not a big deal if we have got it; but in the real sense it's kinda irksome to most men even if they do not tell you, they will stop respecting you. We despite " BEGI, BEGI" Girls.

Typical Example:

Last month I was attending mid-day mass in Festac Town, I had bumped 2 people I had not seen in a long time. 

One was my very good childhood friend (Guy) whom I knew to a large extent and the other was a friend to my kid Sister (Girl), whom I really did not know that much. 

We hung out outside the Church for a while introducing, gisting et al. My male friend who works with one of the Telecommunications industry obviously liked the girl and there and then they exchanged numbers.

The girl later left us for her home. My friend and I retired to his home to go have some drinks; he was on leave and I was on vacation off my system, so we had ample time to gist and stuffs. 

He had started telling me he liked the girl and would love to go into something deeper with her if she was worth it. I simply told him to give it a shot; but I didn't vouch for her since I didn't know her that much.

It wasn't up to 15 minutes later, the girl had started flashing him; he returned the call " Hey what's up babe, it's nice meeting you today, what are you up to" and she answered " I am hungry, can I come over?" He paused a while and said OK. 

We thought she was kidding and I tell you before 2 minutes the girl don show for my guy house. I mean WTF! What if she hadn't met him that afternoon? 

Immediately she got into the house, she no even send me... She headed straight to his room, laid on the bed and continued " I am hungry I need to eat something now", Chao no dey but there was plenty drinks in the fridge, he gave her a bottle of soft first to step down and asked her what she wanted. 

She started by requesting for Pizza but that was not just it, after the pizza she still wanted to do Sharwama plus Habib Icecream. She knew all the spot where the best Pizza and Sharwama can be obtained.

I saw the look on my guy's face... It's not like the money was not there... But she had condescended so, so low. Sounding so, so, hungry! He had rated her very high; she is tall standing at 6ft or so and she was beautiful to an extent. 

Well, to cut the long story short.... He got the stuffs for her and thereafter it became a daily routine. Buy me this, buy me that, I want this, I want that, let's go here, let's go there and to make it worse, she was an empty barrel with no intellect. 

So my friend told her a week after, I will like us to get more serious and she retorted " Can You Take Care Of Me?". When he told me, I laughed because by taking care of her she meant buying pizza N3,500, sharwama N1,000, Habib Yoghurt N500 ... oh how expensive a girl lol. 

My friend still talks about how he likes her but gets pissed off at her insatiable appetite. In his word " If another man gives her all these stuffs she's asking for whenever, am sure he's going to eat out of that punny of hers". She got no self respect.

Another Case:

I had this friend in Abuja, well to do and loved to party hard. His choice of girls has never been anything short of expectation; charming, alluring, endowed and all. 

He had spotted two very pretty girls at the a party who had obviously packaged their self with "bouncing everything". 

He started discussing with them while I stood by and watched as I no get liver lol. It didn't take long and they had jumped into the car. I mean why shouldn't they jump into that machine ( Name Withheld) lol. 

We stopped over to chill at a bar and mehnnn, those girls dey chop, I just wonder how their poo will smell lol. He had given them everything they demanded for; money no be problem! 

But with the way they were eating and behaving like " Ajekun", "USA", " Long Throat", he sent me a text and said " Nna eh these chics are embarrassing me here". 

As if all they had consumed was not enough, they wanted " SUYA", my guy said no problem " Dem Go Chop Suya Dem Go Taya", so he order 7k worth of Suya and told the Aboki to put plenty pepper just for the two of them. 

I no kukuma follow them chop I just dey observe. Come see drama, the pepper was too much but because of their long throat they couldn't imagine how they won't eat the whole Suya oh, na so them fold the thing put am for inside bag sha...

Dear Women, 

You all know what I am saying is the truth ba?

All that kind of attitude dey fall hand. I know classy ladies can't do shit like that sha. lol. But some no just get self respect and control. I mean how can a man take you out and after eating everything you still go home with almost a TRUCK LOAD take away pack like it's going to be your food supply for the whole year. 

Come on now.. Come on... give yourself some rep!

When a man starts seeing you as long throat and over demanding, if he has the things you ask for he will give you and take something immediately. 

I know it's no longer news that some of you women give punny for gifts and money sha but then will he marry you thereafter? That, I don't know!

See, if a guy is taking you out on a date there's nothing wrong in going with your own cash. Don't eat more that what you can pay for! Eat like a big girl and show yourself some respect.

If you want something from him, there's a way of getting it. But not when a guy meets you today and tomorrow you are demanding for money to fix your car, pay your school fees or whatever. 

Is he your Father? Who was paying the fees before he met you? 

A woman should also be independent. Men love independent women, no man wants a woman who is unproductive these days; especially the average or a bit average men, they don't need all that! 

The rich big guys can afford to be spending on you and all but you all know in most cases is just for straffing things. At the end if he has to settle down, he knows the kind of girl he would settle with. 

Even men who have cash complain about stuffs like that; if you think I am lying you could spend sometime in a bar or beer parlor, listen to them talk about women they have had and hear how they talk about you without respect. 

The truth is when they say all these things that women can be bought over with money and stuffs, if there's a girl who doesn't give a damn about what they have to give in terms of cash, who is not demanding et al, they talk about her with respect. 

A great guy knows he has to take care of stuffs even without you asking; but he knows when to start giving you stuff if he wants you for the long term. These days, Men put women through such test but most women fail... The next they gonna be saying is " He's Stingy" and bla bla bla! 

He's stingy is it not his money? Na you work money put for him pocket ni? Am not saying guys should be stingy though...

If I continue this matter, I no go end till tomorrow. I got to go now and focus on other stuffs, I don try for una for here.

If this article is making sense, drop a comment below and let's yarn more about the matter.

Ngwanu!

Later things

Peace

- Victor